15 Questions Christian women need to ask a man before getting involved with him.

I watched this video, and boy did it make me think. I struggle with focusing on the tangible. I want to have a God-honouring relationship, not just fun between two Christians. Huge difference there.

A lot of this is stuff I've talked about, and I really like the stuff about accountability. I wish my family was more interested so I could rely on them. . .

anyway, here's the tough stuff:


1) Theology.
The Bible: is it 100% God’s word & His only word? Jesus: is he God in the flesh & did He die for the sins of the world & rise on the 3rd day. Salvation: is it only by Grace through faith in what Jesus accomplished, not of any human work/effort?

2) Are you a Christian? If so why did you become one, how did you become one and when did you become one? How do you know you really are in the faith now? Please support your answer with scripture.

3) Would the last girl you dated say that she’s a better Christian after having dated you?

4) Are you willing to sit down with the ministers at my church so they can talk with you about your spiritual maturity and what your intentions are with me before we go any further in our friendship/relationship?

5) Would the last girl you were involved with recommend other women that need direction, leadership and spiritual strengthening to get involved with you? Why or why not and could I have somebody call her to verify your answer?

6) If we were in a relationship how would you be able to tell if I began idolizing our relationship over God, & what would you do to help me get back on track?

7) If we got together what things would you do to ensure physical purity in our relationship?

8) If I wanted to pursue a 100% hands off relationship that includes no kissing, hugging, holding hands or messages, to ensure purity and focus how would you feel about that?

9) Could you guarantee that I will spiritually mature & grow b/c I entered in to a relationship with you? If yes how do you know, if no then why should I be with you?

10) If one morning I woke up and was no longer cute, had a 100% flat chest, no hips, no butt, no curves, my hair fell out, & my teeth weren’t straight, would this be a challenge for you, how would you deal with it & would you still be interested in being with me?

11) What areas in my life do you see I need to grow & mature in and how could you build me up in those areas?

12) If you and I were to enter into a relationship what would be the spiritual goal/purpose of what you would expect us, those around us, & God to get out of it? And have you fulfilled this goal in past relationships? How do you know you will fulfill that goal with me if we get together?

13) If we got together would you be ok with having an open relationship where we sit down with ministers from my church every month and give an account of how our relationship is going? Along with answering any personal or spiritual questions they may have for us? The question’s will deal with our purity, spiritual growth, example, and over all progress.

14) What is God’s purpose in dating, and marriage? Please support your answers with the Bible.

15) Do you have a history of getting with girls primarily because you get lonely, the girls are pretty, or other reasons that are not godly? Can you please give me 3 people I call to verify your answer?

Riddance

I got the message loud and clear. You don't want me here. Good. I don't want to be around either.

Why then, do you insist on repeating it over and over and over again, when we've clearly acknowledged our feelings? Why do you hinder me from doing exactly what you say you want me to do?

Timing

At what point should two people who love each other marry?

My simplest answer is when as a couple they can serve God in their callings better than as two individuals.

There are always going to be pros and cons to either remaining single or marrying. There is more freedom as a single, but there is more experience and knowledge, not to mention backup as a couple. When you're single, you answer solely to God and to any earthy authority. When you're married, you answer to God, to your spouse, to the duties as a parent, and to any earthly authority.

Just something to think about.

Reliability

I love reliable people. MANY of my friends are rather unreliable. Loan them money, don't get it back. Loan them things, never see them again.

I'm used to it. I don't part with anything I REALLY care about.

When I let J borrow my computer charger, he sent it back in well under a month. Wow. That really means a lot. Sure, if he hadn't I could have replaced it for very little money, not to mention it was an extra. But he sent it back in a timely manner. I like it!